Your Body Deserves Love
I sat in my closet crying because I had to pack for a business trip and NONE OF MY CLOTHES FIT. Especially my pants. After Covid, I hadn’t been able to get out of bed, much less get dressed, for a few months, and apparently I had gained enough weight to bump me up two sizes. I was angry and I felt betrayed by my body. How could you do this to me? And what am I supposed to wear?
I called my friend, and instead of joining me in berating my body for letting me down, she said, “Go buy some pants that fit you.” What? NO! I have a closet full of pants that fit a couple of months ago, and I AM NOT buying new ones! My body doesn’t DESERVE that! I argued and argued with my friend about this topic, and then she said, “Well if I called you with the same problem, what would you tell me?”
There is nothing worse than being fed your own excellent advice during a righteously indignant…tantrum. Because, let’s be honest, that’s what I was having. A good, old-fashioned, fist-hammering, toddler tantrum. She was right. My body didn’t do anything wrong.
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Change is Okay
Our bodies change for various reasons! In my case, being bed-ridden and probably eating more than I normally do added up to two pant sizes. Sometimes it’s because of hormones, aging, lifestyle changes, having a baby, or the cycle of the moon. And for all of my preaching to all of you to love your bodies just as they are, right now, today, I sure didn’t do a good job in that moment, did I?
After her wise counsel, I went out and bought a few pairs of pants in my favorite neutrals. Because I’m a pear, I know the weight distribution will be mostly on bottom, so I tried on my tops to see which ones still fit and pulled those out. Essentially I made myself a capsule wardrobe for my current size so I could leave the bedroom.
But do you know what else happened? I suddenly felt and looked much better! When we try to squeeze into clothes that are too small, it makes us look terrible, and feel even worse. Those 20 pounds looked great. I like that I have more curve in my rear again. Forcing my way into pants that were too small skewed my perception.
This one change was so impactful that I made a reel about it to show you.
I know women who refuse to by themselves nice clothes unless they are at a size they deem acceptable. We will never get where we want to go by hating and punishing our bodies. Does this mean you can’t have goals to be healthy and fit? Of course not! It does mean loving your body along the way and treating it with kindness and respect.
So today, I want you to start talking to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend. What would she say to you about your body? What would she tell you to do today?
This month is all about loving and appreciating our bodies. It’s a message that I share regularly, but all month long we are going to focus on this topic specifically. I hope you’ll join me, and I want you to start right now by sharing one thing you love about your body with me in the comments.