How To Dress Soft Classic Style

How To Dress Soft Classic Style

You Can Dress Soft and Classic and Still Look Put Together


You’ve seen this woman before. She is lovely, elegant, and regal. She moves and speaks with authority, but there is also a grace and softness to her that she embraces. She makes you want to stare, and if she catches you, she will be startled, and possibly freeze momentarily before continuing on her way, just like a deer. She probably doesn’t recognize herself in this description, but the rest of us do. She’s classic with a dose of softness. She is serious with a soft, romantic side.

If you’ve been following along with the classic closet style series, first we covered how to dress classic without looking dated. You can also read about Edgy Classic StyleMinimal Classic StyleCute Classic Style and Sporty Classic Style.

I hope you read all of the versions because sometimes wearing the wrong details is as big as wearing the right details. If you’re not sure what your Classic Style Twist is, take the quiz to find out!


I have a friend who is soft and classic, and she is quiet. And so still. You could mistake her for a statue when she is sitting in a chair. And she has a deep, intense gaze that makes you feel naked as she peels back the layers of your soul with her eyes. She has a quiet, but powerful voice. She is the most reliable and trustworthy person I know. She has such deep feelings that sometimes she can’t keep the tears from spilling over, but she is horrified if someone sees her cry. She is a vault, and extremely hard to get to know, but if you manage to crack the code, she is one of the greatest, most devoted friends you will ever have. 


If you want your outfit to say classic and soft, it’s the subtle details that will tell the story. Look for touchable fabrics, smaller prints, soft florals, lace, ruffles, soft edges, neutrals, soothing colors, subtle details, simplicity, length. That sounds like too much, doesn’t it? Keep reading. I’ll show you how to make it perfect for you.

Touchable fabrics can include chiffon, velvet, knits, silk, cashmere, shearling, things you want to wrap up in.  You are particularly sensitive to things that are too tight and restrictive, scratchy, uncomfortable, itchy, or stiff. Ponte knit is stretchy but very structured. Ask yourself, “Would I want to hug someone if they were wearing this?” 

Small prints and soft florals Think wild flowers and watercolors. Even though the colors are pure and vibrant, the edges of the print might be blurred. If the print is too large it might feel overwhelming. 

Lace is about as soft as it gets. It’s typically a floral pattern, has soft undefined edges in the pattern, and generally comes in neutral colors.

Ruffles flow and have soft edges to them. Being classic means you probably don’t want them too big or wavy.

Other soft edges could be the corners of your hemline, like in a jacket, or the lapel of your jacket might have a shawl collar, sleeve hems might be flared and wavy.

Neutral colors are probably your favorite. When you add a bold color, it’s usually no more than one per outfit, and might even be limited to your lip color sometimes. So black, white and 1 bold color is often your limit or you can feel overwhelmed.

Soothing colors are comforting, like green, blue, purple, and navy.

Subtle details are key. Nothing in your look is overpowering or jumps out. Your look is very cohesive, and not overwhelming. 

Simplicity is your mantra. Not too much of anything or you will feel lost in the noise of too many details.

You are more likely to prefer some length in your tops or skirts. A straight maxi skirt without too much flare or swish, a long straight cut jacket that still has structure, a tailored tunic top, or a longer pendant necklace, but not all of them in 1 outfit.

Straight black and white might feel too stark sometimes, so adding an additional color like blue, purple, or green can give you an added layer of soothing color that is calming. If black feels too stark, try replacing it with navy.

Sometimes you like a sheen like in silk, but not always a shine like high-shine metallics. 

Soft and Classic Style

Check out Jessica Alba’s outfit. The base layer of the outfit is very structured, tailored, neutral, and her soft detail comes in the shape of the trench coat. It’s longer, and has a softness to it, and is also a neutral color. Her jewelry is minimal, and her makeup is very natural and flattering with a soft smokey eye and a neutral lip. Her hair is in soft curls, and very touchable, but in a contained hairstyle.

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Look for dainty, delicate, and soft edges in your jewelry. Pearls, pendants, soft patterns, and possibly matching sets can work great for you. Also look for filigree or scroll type patterns. Nothing so long or heavy that it gets in your way or swings around too much. Studs are a great earring option for you. Typically if you go long in the necklace, stick to stud earrings, and vice versa.

Your shoes should have more round or almond toes and be comfortable. Pinched toes would draw your attention all day and make everything else fade to the background. Shoes are a great place for some color since it’s small real estate and not too much.

Makeup is another way to keep it soft. You probably love not wearing any makeup. To bring some definition to your face without feeling too made up, consider adopting the French makeup aesthetic: Brows, lashes, and a bold lip. Brows and lips frame the face and give just enough definition for a classic without being too much for your soft side. If you have light brows and lashes, and don’t want to feel the weight of brow and lash enhancers like mascara, dying or tinting them is a more natural look that still gives you the face-framing to enhance your features. If you want to wear a soft smokey eye, then go for a light lip color. 

Hair won’t be too severe. You would probably prefer structured hairstyles with softer edges, so instead of a blunt bob, maybe a softer bob with a little curl. Your curls would be loose and wavy, not tight and bouncy. You have the kind of hairstyle that someone could run their fingers through.


There are some brands that were made for you. Soft Surroundings and Garnet Hill can be great if they have the right colors, but you can usually find black, navy, and white there. Chicos, Cabi, Lularoe, Charter Club, CJ Banks, J. Jill, Free People (but they can get a little too soft and swingy, so watch that), Lands End, Liz Claiborne. Sometimes Ann Taylor, Loft, White House Black Market, and Banana Republic. They are all classic, but their undertone can vary from season to season with the trends. 


The classic is in the style and fit of the clothes. Classic includes button ups, dark wash, tailored jeans (look for 2% spandex so they stretch for comfort, but hold their shape), shirt dresses, stripes, chino shorts, pencil skirts, flats, loafers, trench coats, and a very tailored fit. The overall look of the clothing is classic, and you sprinkle in some romantic details to add a whisper of softness.

Your favorite striped Breton tee might have a cowl neckline. Your black pencil skirt might have a slight A-line cut for ease of movement and comfort. Your button ups might have a soft drape to them. You might enjoy a finer stripe in your clothes than a wider, bolder stripe. Add some softness to classic black pumps with a round or almond toe and a medium heel height. Pair a classic shirt dress with delicate jewelry or a scarf. Sticking to more solid colors, and keeping the patterns on a smaller scale also keeps the softness from drowning you. All the details with a lot of pattern would be too much for you.


I just listed a whole lot of options for adding soft details to your outfits, but don’t wear all of them at the same time. The trick is to pick and choose one or two soft details. If you wear a scarf, your shirt needs to be more fitted and tailored, but not uncomfortably tight. If you choose a maxi dress or skirt, keep it classic and tailored in the shirt or bodice – no ruffles, etc. It can be as subtle as a velvet blazer with a rounded lapel paired with structured (but stretchy) jeans and a tailored top. Your favorite pencil skirt probably has some stretch to it. You could wear a kimono with tailored jeans and top, or a dolman sleeve with structured jeans, but a dolman sleeve and cowl neck might feel too soft. Maybe you like scarves as long as they are worn so they don’t fall below your breastbone and everything else is very tailored, and maybe you love a scarf AND a maxi skirt. How much cowl is too much for you?

If you feel dumpy or dowdy, you’ve gone too far with the softness and you need more classic structure. You might be happiest getting your soft details in your layers and accessories. 

Only you will know the perfect balance. Do you feel too rigid in your clothes? Do you feel overwhelmed with too much softness in texture or structure? Is there too much softness in your outfit and you don’t feel authoritative enough? Start with one soft detail in your outfit and see if you want more. Some women feel better in more, and some can only take so much. It’s very personal Also, don’t forget the bold hues. Those say you mean business.

Soft and Classic Style

Jessica Alba is wearing a very classic outfit with tailored top and jeans, classic sandals, a black structured bag, and belt, and matching all her leather accessories. She brought in a bold color with a looser, dolman-sleeve cardigan to bring a soft quality. Her jewelry and makeup is simple and natural. She could have worn a bold red lip.


There can be some overlap in cute and soft, like in round-toed shoes or florals, but the execution is different. The difference is cute is youthful and girly, and soft is soft and elegant. Cute and classic women can borrow the looks and ideas from the young girls and elevate them to a grown up version. Little girls play dress up to look like a soft, soft woman. So if it looks at all appropriate for a young girl, you’ve got the wrong item. So a cute and classic will wear a round toed shoe, but may prefer color, shine, bling, or glitter. A soft round toe shoe might have color, but probably not shine and color. Your key words are simple and subtle.


Since I’m definitely not classic and soft, let’s look at someone else, Mary Orton of She is the very definition of stunning, regal, refined, elegant. You can’t help but stare. And she knows and embraces her soft classic so well. I just love her style. I get such style envy and wish I were a classic and soft when I see her. Also, #girlcrush.

Photo credit here.

Outfit #1: Talk about the perfect fall outfit! Mary’s whole outfit is very structured and classic, and she brings in the softness with the dolman sleeve, cowl neck sweater. Notice that her turtleneck layered underneath is a structured fit in the neck. If it were also cowl, it would be too drapey. She’s wearing a long pendant necklace that is simple and structured in design, and stud earrings to compensate. Her almond toe boots with a mid-height chunky heel are sensible but stylish. 

Outfit #2: Her swing top isn’t too wide, and the fabric isn’t too soft, so it stays puts. It’s tailored at the top, so it allows her to wear the scarf in a structured shape that doesn’t fall down to wear the top widens, and doesn’t add bulk up top.  Her wide-legged cropped pants are very structured while being loose and comfortable. She keeps her earrings simple so it’s not too much detail up top.

Outfit #3: I love the elegance of this dress. It’s very structured up top with a soft bow that stays neatly in place. What makes the bow soft instead of cute is that it drapes down in a soft shape instead of standing at attention. The maxi dress flares softly at the bottom making a soft swish instead of a girly twirl. The sleeves puff slightly at the bottom before being reigned in with a tailored cuff. The floral print is small but evenly and uniformly spaced, and the belt highlights her waistline.

Outfit #4: This  outfit is straight classic with one soft twist: the lace cardigan. Even though it’s long, it’s straight and structured, and the lace adds a dignified softness. The cardigan is a big detail, so everything else is simple: neutral color palette, simple jewelry, and structured, classic clothes. Her ponytail is neatly done, but not pulled so tight she’s getting a facelift. There is some softness to it.

Outfit#5: We can’t see all of Mary’s outfit here, so I’m going to guess she is wearing all neutrals. Her shearling jacket is structured in cut, but has the softness of the material it’s made of. I mean, who wouldn’t want to wrap up in that? The belted waist shows off her figure.

Outfit #6: Mary’s maxi dress is simple in structure, and fairly straight. Romantic without being too drapey. The fabric is light, but holds its shape. Her shoes are stylish, but comfortable. The color palette is neutral, and her jewelry is subtle but simple. Her hair is soft, controlled waves.

Outfit #7: I love this dress. I used to have one very similar in color and style, and I finally realized it was too soft and swishy for my edgy style, but it is glorious on her. Soft and swishy, but not girly and twirly, Even though the top is structured, it’s not too fitted, and it blouses a little over the belt, which gives definition to her waist. The skirt is a midi length, which shows her legs, and keeps the dress from overwhelming her. If it were a maxi length with the fullness of the skirt and the bodice, she might look lost in all that fabric. With that gorgeous watermelon color she is keeping the rest of the color palette neutral. Adding more color would be overwhelming.  

Outfit #8: The stripes, the fit and color of the jeans, the structure of the bag, even the shoes are all straight classic. Mary adds a subtle softness in the cut of the turtleneck. It has a slight dolman sleeve and the neckline is looser, slightly cowl. Her accessories are simple, and the stripes are the star of the show. 

Outfit #9: Once again, this outfit is as classic and structured as it gets. Basic black and white outfit, and she brought in a touch of coziness with a blanket scarf that she belted to give it structure and make a jacket. I love that she buttoned the collar all the way up to contrast with the drape of the scarf. 


As important as it is to add the soft elements you want, it’s equally important to avoid certain elements if you want that soft, soft vibe. I’ve showcased Edgy Classic StyleMinimal Classic StyleCute Classic Style and Sporty Classic Style. Learning about all of them will help you avoid the details that will take away from your soft and classic look.


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33 thoughts on “How To Dress Soft Classic Style”

  1. This is me! I have struggled at times with knowing how to show my classic softness. Like you want to show people that you have some sharp edges, I want people to see there is a softness and sensitivity in me. I loved the examples!

    1. Jen, I honestly think this is the trickiest combo to get right, until you really get a good feel for it. It was the hardest one for me to write because there aren’t a lot of examples out there. Balance is key, which is why I recommend starting with one soft detail per outfit, and see if you feel like you want more. It can vary from day to day.

      I totally understand wanting people to see that other side of you. It’s there and it needs to be honored. I hope this helps you with that.

  2. I would wear and feel totally at ease with everything shown here so I am leaning towards this type of classic style. I have found the same feeling with many of April’s classic pieces but couldn’t go totally for the edgy accessories for me when they are so perfect for her and others. This is why. I think I need to work on balance the most. Much of my closet looks very similar to this and I am loving the hues vs tints. You had me at comfort hues blue, purple, green and navy ❣️

    1. Oh Wow! This is the first time I have felt that somebody actually “got” me! I’ve always been told I was a classic, and while I do tend to choose classic styles as opposed to bohemian or trendy or whatever the current labels of the day were, I never felt comfortable in the true classic wardrobe. My favorites included soft bows, ruffles, florals, etc. Softness, not cuteness! I’m so excited to thin my crowded wardrobe, keeping the items that I love and letting go of what I thought I was supposed to love! Thanks so much for helping me understand myself!!

      1. Same me! I would just copy paste your comment as it desribes exactly what I have felt too. Thank you very much April for this inspiring and so ‘just to the point’ article.

  3. This is the first time I feel like my style has been accurately expressed!! Thank you!! My closet will be getting another thorough sifting-through very soon.

  4. Great post! This is the style I relate to most and I love seeing your take on it. I like dressing softer but sometimes it can go wrong quick. I usually have to close my eyes and see how I’m feeling it. I’ll look into your recommendations because I don’t mind trying new brands or styles to find what fits just right. Do you happen to know where that leather jacket is from at the top? By the way, I appreciate what you said to Jen in your comment.

  5. I’ve been really looking forward to this version! Sure enough, I really relate to this combination most and I naturally express my unique version in this way. I had been confusing my softer side with being cute, light, and playful, but seeing both versions on their own has been really helpful for me to decipher my preferences and to understand what feels best. Delicate, simple, and subtle are definitely most relatable for me. Thank you for all the helpful advice!

  6. Ashley I’m so glad this was helpful! I think it’s really easy to confuse cute, light, and playful with soft and subtle. There is some overlap, but there are differences between the two. It’s easy to end up with one when you were going for the other, and I tried to point those out in the post.

  7. This is my style, and you’ve totally nailed it. Great job! Very few people get it this accurate unless they dress and think this way themselves.

    I had a few revelations reading this – why I just can’t wear certain things, etc. Thanks for a great post!

    Now I just have to figure out how best to "follow" you so I actually get notifications. (I spend most of my screen time on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. I rarely go through email.)

  8. This really helps me visualize what style I would like to have. It definitely is about balance. If I wear one flowy or soft item, then I need everything else to be fitted. I love the photo of the white shirt and jeans with the long lace cardigan. I don’t think Mary Orton wears the colors I would, but her overall style is generally me. I love the paragraph you wrote about your friend. What a self esteem booster. Is that really how people view me? Thank you, April.

  9. Mary does choose a lot of hues, but not always. I love her style and wish it suited me. I just admire it on her and other Soft Classics.

    This is really how I view you. Soft Classic women remind me of a doe. So incredibly still and their gaze is soft but piercing. Also very quiet. I always wonder what they are thinking.

  10. I enjoyed this post. I wonder if people go through stages depending on their weight. I can recall being more edgy and due to a weight change and graying of hair, I look for some softness in the outfit. But, not too much softness or it becomes "dowdy" as you’ve stated. I’m not on facebook but I wonder if some of the discussions there cover this quandary. Growing older and aging and how it’s affected the classic style features like edgy or soft.
    Thank you for this post.

  11. Hi Sandy. I’m glad you enjoyed the post. I don’t think who we are changes based on weight or age. I think we try to change our appearance based on those things and what we tell ourselves is acceptable. I did this after becoming a mom. I went from dressing like myself to a soft version of who I THOUGHT a mom had to be. I never changed, because I am who I am. And changing my appearance didn’t change me. It just made me unhappy. I would focus more on how you want to show up for your day. Who are you really? And what are you naturally drawn to? You don’t have to be soft just because your hair is graying.

  12. This was SO helpful. I’ve always self-described as a ‘comfortable classic’ because I cannot abide anything that is the least bit uncomfortable and never understood women who’s motto seemed to be ‘You must suffer to be stylish’

    1. Mary, I’m so glad this was helpful! Comfort is a top priority for Soft Classics. As an Edgy Classic, I am willing to suffer a little for fashion, but not too much. I put function over fashion any day, but a slightly uncomfortable shoe that is GORGEOUS? Yah, I’ll wear that. 🙂

  13. So happy to find this post. This is the style to which a cute girl should grow to – transforming into a woman with class and femininity. I am myself soft classic and it’s really hard sometimes to find good working examples to inspire from. When I was younger I loved Riley’s style from “Baby Daddy” series and tried to imitate her style. But now I don’t feel comfortable in cute clothes anymore. I’m trying to look more serious and authoritative but not too dramatic. So thank you for your recommendations!

    P.S. I also love the style of Charlotte York from SATC. I guess it falls into this category as well.

  14. Wow!! I had a big light bulb moment when I read this post about soft classic style. I’ve been fiddling with the idea of a capsule wardrobe for the past two years; not quite there, but I’ve weeded out my closet and it has changed the way I shop to be intentional. Easy enough with the basics, but not when it came to pieces with personality…what, exactly, was my “look”? I could never figure out why I was drawn to classic style, but uncomfortable wearing it! Now I know! I need to add in the soft element. It was very helpful to see the photos and it immediately resonated with me. It also explains why some outfits made me feel “dumpy” – too much soft! I am amazed you can define this style so well when it isn’t your own. Thanks again.

  15. Hi April,
    Wow I can’t believe how much effort you put into everything you do. It really shows and is so helpful. My question is this. In the test I show up as minimal classic with 19% EACH of edgy and soft. I get why but do I choose one so my style is evident and not completely different from day to day? Think I grew up edgy but am moving more toward soft but not too soft.

  16. I am nearing 70 and have spent a lifetime never being comfortable in most of my clothes. They were either too frumpy and dumpy or too unfeminine. Because I am both a soft classic and a sporty classic, I would simply fall back on the sporty look when pressed for time (which meant most of the time!). That meant I never felt truly at home in my clothes and never pretty enough, but I didn’t look terrible and I settled for that. At my current age, I DO look terrible if I don’t dress right. So in the past few years, I have put a lot of effort into “prettying up” some of my clothes, but until finding your website, I did not understand why I felt compelled to do this. I also did not know how to work with everything in my wardrobe. I have some timeless pieces that I have had for 50 years.They are of wonderful quality and fit but are in a ‘minimal classic’ style and ugly on me if I don’t do something to soften the overall effect. Now I understand how to deal with them and how to make all my outfits reflect both parts of my classic style. I can’t thank you enough!!

  17. I’m so happy to have found your website through pinterest and Facebook. I’m 54 and retired out of the beauty industry in the large department stores so fashion and beauty have always been important to me since my teenage years. I am now a silver mane in soft classic style with a touch of cute claddic(I do love Charlotte York style to a degree that works for me)and I’m a touch of sporty classic as I’m a lifetime hirsewoman. What I am finding the most difficult is how to be a pretty and elegant lady while working on my ranch with my horse? Doing barn chores your constantly trying to stay warm/cool,dry, clean and I’m always armed since we live in range country and there are predators present (bears/wolves/cougars) and you never know what situation you will find yourself in. I have separate working on the ranch and going into town clothes but I admit I’m often lazy and don’t take the time to change from barn clothes into town clothes and going into town in .y barn clothes with no makeup on always makes me feel old and dumpy. I’m working in being more diligent on making myself pretty for town. How can I blend this all together for an actual style? I’m currently trying to incorporate a more Ralph Lauren English equestrian style look to my wardrobe to create my balance. Looking forward to taking the master class soon…when I have time between barn chores 😍

    1. Hi Hyla! I may not have horses, but I have my own “dirty” loves like spending all day in my garden. I have my gardening clothes (a basic white tee and some older ripped jeans). I hope you enjoyed the masterclass and are enjoying the course!

  18. I am always describing my style as classic with a feminine touch but a little glamour…meaning soft, touchable fabrics with a sheen and flowy. Soft Classic is so me! Thank you for describing me so well! Nothing uncomfortable. I only wear skirts. I also only wear round or almond toe shoes!

  19. Thanks April for helping me identify myself as a soft classic. I detest clothes that restrict me or don’t move with my body. I’ve always liked simple lines, beautiful fabrics & textures. Beige, Black & Stark White don’t suit me so my neutrals are Pastels. I love lavender, lilac, lemon, sage green, white, dusty pink, powder blue, silver grey. I prefer casual clothes & create softness by graduating the same color in an outfit (a peacock blue top with powder blue cardigan), adding a contrasting scarf & pairing it with
    a flattering dark blue jean & simple navy sneakers. It’s soft, comfy, colorful & stylish I hope!
    P. S. Wow how rude was that lady about your figure & kids some people have no idea!!! Glad you set her straight!

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