21 Lessons I learned from Dressing Your Truth as a Type 4

LIFE-CHANGING LESSONS FROM THE DRESSING YOUR TRUTH TYPE 4 COURSE

THE DRESSING YOUR TRUTH TYPE 4 COURSE MADE ME UNRECOGNIZABLE

“Hey, Jason,” I said casually as I passed my neighbor. “Hey…,” he trailed off as he failed to put a name with the face. He could tell from the familiar way that I had addressed him he SHOULD know who I am, and as I stopped for a brief, neighborly chat, his face flushed with embarrassment. This was actually our third encounter like this, and for him it had become uncomfortable, but for me it had become part of daily life the last couple of months as people who had known me for years failed to recognize me until I identified myself. A stumble of apologies were always forthcoming, but I had a slight smile on my lips. No apologies necessary, I assured each one. I know I look VERY different now, and in a good way.

It’s been one and a half years since I started the Dressing Your Truth Type 4 30-Day Challenge, and the change has been life-altering. My exterior has definitely changed, but even more importantly, my interior has. Dressing Your Truth is an energy profiling system that helps identify a person’s true nature, and not what they have been conditioned to be. It teaches us to embrace our gifts and strengths instead of treating them like flaws.

One day, my mom and sister-in-law were in deep discussion about something I had seen here and there, but never thought anything of: Dressing Your Truth. Turns out my sister-in-law had been doing it for over a year, and never told me about it. At first I sneered. I may have rolled my eyes. A few times. I had seen Dressing Your Truth mentioned online, and honestly, I thought it was for old ladies who wore lots of animal prints, too much jewelry and short, spiky hair. I had no idea it could be relevant to me.

When we got to the type four chapter, and it was like someone had been reading my brain and spying on me my entire life. I felt so much peace, calm and connection. I felt seen for the first time. Then I read about type fours in The Child Whisperer book (written by the same author, Carol Tuttle), and I cried and cried from relief, validation, understanding, acceptance. The very next day I dove straight into the Dressing Your Truth program and the 30-day challenge of dressing my type for 30 days to see how I felt, how others responded to me, and it was intensely emotional.

21 lessons i've learned from dressing my truth

1. I realized that for years I’ve been trying to disappear and become invisible because I’ve always been told that who I am is wrong. I’m too much. My energy is too big. I had changed my appearance over the years to become increasingly softer, flowier, mousier. Everything from my makeup, to clothing, to hair color and accessories. I stopped talking. To everyone. I stopped interacting. At church (the only social-like thing I did) I walked in, listened, and left. I didn’t go to extra activities. I didn’t go to girls nights out. We’ve been at the same church for five years, and people still ask if I’m new. I didn’t talk much to my neighbors. I didn’t talk to anyone I didn’t have to. At family events I kept to myself. I really even stopped communicating with my husband. I had shut down and retreated farther and farther into myself because I was trying so hard not to be me.

2. Thanks to Dressing Your Truth (DYT), I know there is nothing wrong with me. I’m not broken, and I don’t need to be fixed. I’ve had so many internal battles on top of the negative messages I’ve gotten from others. I felt like I was a mean person for immediately picking out the flaws in everything or being a know-it-all. That isn’t a flaw. It’s a gift. I have a gift for perfecting things. I’m an editor. I make things better. It would be mean if I walked up to people and pointed out all the flaws I notice, but just noticing them doesn’t make me mean. Automatically editing everything I read and mentally correcting people’s grammar doesn’t make me mean. It makes me precise. I’ve beaten myself up for that for years. I thought I was a critical, negative person, but I’m not. I used to punish myself by making myself find five nice things for every flaw I detected. I didn’t need to be punished for being who I am.

3. I thought I was a bad mom because I’m not a Pinterest mom. I don’t make leprechaun traps, bake a different type of Christmas cookie every day of December, leave tooth fairy glitter on the carpet, or plan a fun outing for every day of summer break. I’m not that mom. I am great at noticing the unique needs of each of my children and trying to reach them in the way they need to be reached and loved. I’ve worked hard at making sure they are treated as individuals at home and outside of the home (especially important when you have a large family and when you have triplets. No one in our family is named triplet). I’m great at providing structure and consistency, providing homemade, healthy meals three times a day, making sure there is always a plan in place. I get things done. I have routines. I minimize chaos. Well, I minimize chaos as much as one can in a home with six kids ages 2-8. So does that mean moms who don’t do these things are bad moms? No. They also have wonderful strengths they bring to their families.


4. Type fours are still, private, bold, authoritative, striking, perfectionist, clean, regal, simple, precise, structured, clear, reflective, and high-contrast. My secondary is type 3, which is why my mom and sister-in-law pegged me as that first. I do have a lot of type 3 qualities, but I don’t relate to that as a whole. Type 3s are dynamic, sure, and purposeful. They have the gift of action, swiftly getting things done. I get things done, but in a more precise, thought out way than type 3 would. I’m not swift, I’m constant and steady. I’m extremely efficient. I think carefully through exactly what I want, but once I know, I get it done. Get. It. Done…Perfectly. Types 4 and 3 are both huge energies. Carol Tuttle, the creator of Dressing Your Truth, describes them as fire and ice. I’m full of fire and ice. Do you have any idea how confusing that can be?

5. Another thing I’ve come to understand about myself is the internal battles I’ve always felt between my primary 4 and my secondary 3. I have always loved structured, clean, tailored, preppy clothes, but I also love edgy, textured things. Leather, zippers and snake skin make my heart sing. I love to be unique and have things no one else has. All my life I would go from one extreme to the other with style. All super simple and structured Type 4 or all crazy Type 3, and never felt right in either because I wasn’t doing either one right. Now I know my best is classy, tailored T4 clothes and colors with edgy accessories/handbag, and hair to express my secondary 3. I wasn’t wearing the bold type four colors when I dressed in type four structure.

6. Am I an introvert or an extrovert? Yes, I am. That has confused me my whole life. I’m an introvert as a type four, and an extrovert as a secondary type 3. I hate having attention drawn to me, but if I feel like I’m an authority/knowledgable on a topic, I have no problem speaking to a large group, teaching classes, blogging, etc. When I go into a new situation, I hang back and observe silently for a while, but once I feel comfortable, I can join the party and be just as lively as anyone, or at least I used to do that when I wasn’t hiding. Never in my life have I walked into a room and immediately engaged with the group. Not ever.

7. I require alone time to recharge, but sometimes I reach a point where I feel starved of adult interaction. Once I reach my limit though, I have to disengage. If I can’t physically leave, I will mentally check out. In many ways type four and type three are so opposite, and I could never reconcile the differences within myself, but after learning about the types through Dressing Your Truth, I understand all of my contradictions.

8. For the last several years I’ve told my husband that when I was younger, I used to be a very vibrant, bright, engaging person, very much like one of our daughters, and I’ve wondered what happened to me so I can make sure it doesn’t happen to her. It made me sad that that girl was gone. I didn’t like who I’d become, but I didn’t know how to change it. Now I know that was my secondary 3 shining, and I’ve been muffling her. She hasn’t had a voice. She has been in time out for years. I’m ready to invite her out again. It won’t happen all at once because she has been locked up for so long she will need time to adjust to the daylight. She also needs some apologies from me for hiding her. She is powerful and deserves to come out whenever she wants.

9. I realized I really don’t like movement. I thought the energy component of Dressing Your Truth was really out there, but I’ve come to realize it is true. I don’t like dangly sleeves. I had this super cute top that had dangly sleeves, and in two years I wore it once, and I felt so anxious all day. I don’t like bracelets or watches to slide up and down my arm. I don’t like necklaces that are lower than the top of my bra because they swing and move too much. I don’t like full skirts. They have too much movement and volume for me. I’ve bought several because I like how they look on other people, and I never wear them. I try them on, and take them off. They feel as big as Scarlett O’Hara’s ballgowns. If I have to secure it when I bend over, it’s a no. I don’t like the air around me to move, no direct air flow, especially if it is cold. I don’t even really move in my sleep. I sleep on one side most of the night, and when I do roll over, I don’t disturb the covers. I’m like a chicken on a roasting spit. I rotate in the same spot. I sit very still and very compactly, but with excellent posture. If I could get a freeze button for the whirlwind that is my children, I would press it on the hour for a 60-second pause.

10. The endless cycle of chopping my hair and growing it out only to chop it again is over. I don’t actually want long hair. As soon as my bangs are long enough to get in my eyes, I start pinning them back. If my hair is long enough to touch my neck and get in my face, I put it up. I have a Pinterest board with over 200 pins of pixie haircuts and my Pinterest board for long hair is for one of my daughters. I like short hair on me, so I I chopped it again! I loved it, but it was still too long, so a pixie followed shortly after. Anything that requires fidgeting, sweeping, securing, or working with on my person is too high maintenance for me. During my 30-day challenge, I liked the clothes and makeup, but to be honest, it felt clownish, until I cut and colored my hair, and then suddenly I felt complete. It all went together. It all belonged. I’m not hiding anymore. Love the color, love the cut. It feels like me! This was the missing piece.

The edgy pixie is my perfect haircut.

11. For the first time in my life I am 100% proud of who and what I am. I’m not broken. I don’t need to be fixed. I don’t have to apologize for who I am (even to myself) or change. I’ve let go of the ways I thought I was a bad person because of my perfecting nature. I’m perfect the way I am, and now my exterior is starting to match my interior. I feel stronger than ever. I feel free to be myself. I cried buckets of tears of relief and gratitude in the first month. Carol and her Dressing Your Truth Program gave me all of that by sharing what she knows. I’m so very grateful for it. And not only that, it is improving my relationship with my husband and children as we work to understand ourselves and each other. I feel so drawn to Carol Tuttle because for the first time in my life someone SEES me. I’ve been waiting my whole life to be seen, appreciated, acknowledged, understood and admired for my strengths instead of condemned for my weaknesses (even by myself!). I feel all of those things from her through the books and videos. I got to meet her during my challenge, and it was a thrill for me. I could care less about meeting celebrities, but I was dying to meet her, even though it was brief. I wanted to thank her. And by thank her, I mean sob and blubber incoherently.

He loves the real me.

12. Speaking of my husband, he is THRILLED with the changes. He loves my look, but even more than that, he loves that the girl he fell in love with and married is coming back. He loved my feisty, sure personality. He missed the fire, drive and spunk. He wanted an equal partner, not a yes girl. He has loved me all along, and he loves that my true self is coming back. He loved the real me when he asked me to marry him.

 

13. This is truth in advertising. When I dressed in such a reserved way, and then I occasionally said something bold, it was even more startling and unexpected coming from someone who looked the way I looked. Now when people see me, they expect bold words and actions from this package. It feels good to me to have my exterior match my interior. There is an energy in it that I can’t explain. It fuels and powers me to be true to who I am. I feel authentic when I dress my truth, and that is empowering. When I went for a check-up, my doctor walked in and said, “Whoa! You look fantastic. I love this new look. Are you going to get a Harley now?” He was referring to my moto jacket. I said, “Maybe. I’m finally dressing so that my exterior matches my interior.” He said, “Oh, so this is how you feel?” and I responded, “No. This is who I am.”

14. I want to be clear that it isn’t a free pass to take my strengths and gifts and abuse people with them. Type four boldness can also be quite offensive when all filters are removed. Type three push energy that gets things done can also push people over and be overbearing. Type two deep feelings can become emotional extortion and abuse, and type one spontaneity can be downright rude when they stand people up or are hours late because they lost track of time. Again. I can still be bold and be selective with my words. I’m not always successful in choosing the right words, but I do try, and that matters.

15. If you find yourself saying, “I can’t help it, I’m a type…” then that might be your clue that you need to reign it in and use some good, old-fashioned manners. In fact, you CAN help it. Sometimes extra honest words pop out of my mouth if someone catches me off-guard, but I work on filtering. I learned long ago that not everyone appreciates extreme honesty the way I do. If I ask your opinion, I truly want your honest opinion. Years ago I started prefacing my answer with, “Do you want my opinion, or do you want my approval, because I can give you either one.” It usually gets a laugh, and most often the answer of, “I want your approval.” To which I respond, “I think that’s a great idea. You should do it.” Obviously I wouldn’t give that answer to something illicit, illegal or immoral, but I can stand behind your choice to paint your car to look like Sponge Bob Squarepants. Absolutely. Do it. I call shotgun for the first cruise down Main Street.

16. I’ve learned that I can dress to channel the energy I need for the day’s activities. If I know I have a hard day coming, or the day after a hard day, I can wear black to soothe, ground and center myself, and it doesn’t matter if anyone else thinks it’s too dark. I can dress in brighter colors to seem more approachable and open, like when I volunteer in my daughter’s kindergarten class each week. Sometimes I will choose a bright color to channel more energy or a brighter mood, and sometimes I will dress more fiercely with extra secondary 3 elements if I need some extra feistiness or push (or as a warning that I’m feeling extra feistiness or push).

17. I’ve learned that the style choices that work for one type 4, or even 4 million type fours may not work for me, and that is why this journey is unique to each of us. My type 4 style works for me, and won’t work for others. It is very personal. I still find inspiration in the outfits of others, like a color combination, but there is no one I’ve met whose style I could copy and feel like it was me, and that is a good thing.

18. I NEED the edgy elements of my secondary three, or I feel off. When we went to Japan my small wardrobe was strictly T4, and I felt like something important was missing. When we got back I couldn’t get enough edge for a couple of weeks.

This is the first non-type 4 outfit I wore after the challenge, and I couldn't get it off fast enough. I loved it before.

19. This brings me to another thing I’ve learned. My primary energy type is my PRIMARY. It comes first, always. Incorporating my secondary 3, which is a very, very strong secondary, is still just that: secondary. And often subtle. It might be extra texture in a sweater, (always) my hair, some angular shapes on a shirt, zipper details, leather trim, or earrings that could definitely put an eye out.

20. There is no going back. My 30-Day Challenge ended up being 6 weeks because it felt so natural. The first time I wore one of my old favorite outfits, I felt so off that my husband thought I was coming down with something. I swore that no one would tell me what to do, and that after the challenge I would keep all my favorite outfits, but 6 weeks later I couldn’t get rid of them fast enough.

21. The most important lesson I learned is my strengths aren’t weaknesses, my gifts aren’t flaws, and who I am is perfectly me. I’m not allowing people to tell me I have to fit a mold. I’m proudly being my Type 4 self: bold, concise, exact, structured, perfectionist, literal, precise, straight-forward, polished and serious. I’m also driven, intense, hard-working, and determined. I can be a lot. I can do a lot. 

DRESSING YOUR TRUTH TYPE FOUR BEFORE AND AFTER

BEFORE: This is me dressed as a type three, which is my secondary. I dressed as a type four in college, but once I got married, my type three husband started buying me type three clothes, and I started buying him type four clothes. We were dressing each other in our types.  Did I look fine? I did. But I didn’t look stunning like a type 4. I blended in, which is what I was going for. I also didn’t feel fine. I felt conflicted all the time, and I was hiding. This is the best before picture I could find, and my skin is ruddy, my features are blended, and I’m just kind of there. Makeup experts will tell you that brown eyeshadow makes blue eyes bluer, but as a type 4, black or navy eyeshadow and eyeliner make my eyes bluer and wearing type four colors makes my skin clearer and brighter. I shared the perfect everyday makeup look here

AFTER: Since I started dressing my truth, I receive so many compliments on my style from strangers and acquaintances alike who, “wish [they] could pull this off”. They tell me they love my style, that I always look great. That is one more lesson I learned. There can be a difference between getting a compliment on your style and your outfit. Sometimes it means the outfit is wearing you. I tend to specifically hear people love my style now, where before I heard more that they liked my outfit, my shoes, my necklace, etc., when I was trying to follow the trends that don’t suit me.

To experience Dressing Your Truth and find your personal beauty, click here for the free Dressing Your Truth course.

If you are looking for Type four outfit, makeup and style inspiration, I share a weekly round up of my outfits every Thursday, makeup and style tutorials, and breakdowns of what I am looking for in specific items.

Check out some more of these before and afters, all taken within 6 months of starting my DYT type 4 30-day challenge. I remember being so unhappy at how awful I looked in these pictures, and not sure why I looked terrible when I was trying so hard to look put together. These pictures have never seen the light of day, they are that bad, but I’m sharing them here to make a point. Picture 1 was on a trip to New York City, picture 2 was my daughter’s birthday party, and picture three was my daughter’s dance competition. These pictures made me cringe.

The bottom row are pictures of me dressing as a type four. I am constantly told I am unrecognizable…in a good way.

Today when a person meets me for the first time, they know exactly what to expect from me. I call it my truth in advertising policy. My appearance matches who I am: bold, edgy, somewhat reserved, confident, authoritative, and content. I know who I am, and everyone who sees me knows who I am as well. I am treated the way I expect to be treated, and the interaction is positive on both sides. The thrill of looking so great I was downright unrecognizable for a few months is just a bonus.

 

If you want to read more about the inner changes and things I discovered about myself, the 30-day challenge posts give more detail. Post one is here, post two is here, and post three is here

 

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68 thoughts on “21 Lessons I learned from Dressing Your Truth as a Type 4”

  1. Wow! So exciting April! I loved reading this! How fun that you’re doing a giveaway – too bad I already bought my ticket to the event! 😉

  2. GREAT post from a fellow 4/3. You always look perfectly put together! Stunning style indeed.

    I’ve learned so much from your posts on the DYT group page. So thrilled that you’re posting your outfits here too! (Especially when I take my Facebook hiatus.)

    Generous giveaway. I wish I could go…but it’s too hard to leave my little ones for the trip. One of these days though!

    1. Thank you Laura! I’ve learned so much from the other women in that group that I’m glad I can contribute as well. I understand how hard it is to leave your little ones. The first time I did it I felt like the worst mom ever. I have some tips about how to make it easier for everyone. I guess I should write a post about that 🙂

  3. April, I love your blog……you have totally made me realize I am truly a T4 with most likely a S1….you are and always have been an inspiration with your style and how you live your life. Thank you…….

  4. I’m so excited for the chance to win. I love reading about your life: style, parenting etc. so glad you’re doing this!

    1. Thank you! I’ve always valued being a unique individual, and I think that can be a stumbling block for some people, being lumped into 1 of 4 categories. But even in those categories, we all have our own personal take on everything. We are still unique while also finding a place where we fit. I love it!

  5. Yay April! I am so glad that I had people in Lehi who also introduced me to DYT. Can you believe I am also a 4/3? haha probably why we became friends in the first place.
    Lexi Powell

  6. I also love DYT! I am a 3/1 and I find that I’m very drawn to the type 4 energy. It must be the grounding effect. I’m happy to find your blog and delve deeper into the type 4 mind.

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      Boni I’m so glad you’re here! I’m very drawn to type 3 energy. I realized that all of my very close friends are either T3 or S3. They bring out my S3 and raise my energy. One of my favorite people is a 3/1, and I’m my most fun when I’m around her. She draws that out in me, and I love that.

      1. Omg it was as if was reading my thoughts!!!Exactlly as you described always between 3 and 4,always had those feelings and thoughts cause I didnt smile often or because I would notice something wrong..Always appreciated respect and always thought my appearance doesn’t show who I am.I love pixie hair and ita the style I always Google for BUT my husband doesn’t like short hair 🙁 You look so alive and SO much younger with this look!!!This post was such a relief!!I will check all the others too!

        1. Thank you! I’m glad you were able to resonate with the post. Sometimes a peek inside someone else’s head really helps. If you love a pixie, GO FOR IT. It’s your hair.

  7. It was so fun to read this post today. I am a 2/1 and have been dressing my truth for about 2 1/2 years. It is such an amazing program!

    1. Thanks Jodie! I can’t stop talking about it. DYT has changed my life dramatically, and I want everyone to get the same benefits.

  8. I am so glad I found your blog. I identify with this post so much.

    I started DYT in March 2014. My knee-jerk reaction was "I’m a type 4" but talked myself into being a type 2. I later identified type 3 was my secondary, and though I dressed type 2, I never let go of my black clothes because when I went to an important meeting or had to have an uncomfortable conversation with someone, I HAD to wear black to feel calm and centered.

    As I worked on my emotional stuff since 2014, the more I dressed type 2, the more I felt mousy, invisible, frumpy, voiceless, and dumpy. I re-read the material and I realized, I am a type 4! I realize I had to move through the energy of type 2 as I healed emotionally.

    I also realize I have a lot of type 1s and secondary type 1s in my life, which happens to be the energy type I least relate to. It naturally create balance in my life.

    1. Cassandra welcome! I’m so glad you found my blog as well. DYT is amazing. I guess I did my T2 years before I found DYT, so I was ready to get back to being me. I hope to see around here more. I post my outfits every Wednesday, if you are looking for inspiration. If you are going to the event next weekend, I hope you come say hi to me. I’d love to meet you.

  9. All I can say is, Thank you. I was told I was a Type 3 then thought I was a Type 1 as I’m a BIG personality. I think I"ve finally found out who I am!

  10. I just found DYT on Monday. Seeing myself as a Type 4 is really easy, although I also somewhat identify with T2. Your post brought tears to my eyes as I am in some sort of midlife crisis trying to figure out who I really am and how to better interact with others, especially my T3 friends and T1 daughter. I suddenly feel at peace with the analytical, precise, introspective person I am. Your comments about how you mother also made me realize I will never be the crafty, cookie queen I desparately have been trying to be. What a relief! I decided to wear a green blouse today thay I hated previously, but I paired it with black pants and blazer and I got tons of compliments, so much so that in a couple weeks I am going to host a DYT party with those friends. Anyways, I look forward to more of your posts.

    1. SJA, I remember the tears. I cried for a month straight from the validation that who I am is perfect, and I could let go of the things I’m not. I bet you were radiant in that green blouse. Did you download the free 30-day challenge printable? It will help you a lot as you start your journey.

      RE T2. It could be your secondary, but you could also be mistaking some T4 tendencies for T2 tendencies. For example, my need for comfort in my clothes isn’t bc I’m hyper sensitive to how they feel or itch or scratch. It has more to do with the fact that once my clothes are on my body, I don’t want them to draw my attention again or requires scooping, sweeping or securing, it’s too high movement and high maintenance. So something scratchy is drawing my attention, and I hate that. Something to consider.

      Best of luck as you start your journey. I’m thrilled to have you here. I hope you get inspiration.

  11. I’m struggling .. I’m not happy turning 40 and I think I’m a type 4 but I like quirky funky clothes and I look at the type 4 clothes and think they will be boring on me. My hair is vibrant colours and changes regularly bright pink, green, blue etc. Your blog has made me think that when you say you’ve Have interpreted the type 4 in your own style .. Really made me think .. simple I know but I’ve never thought about it like that. I’ve signed up for your challenge .. As I want to start the new year and my 40 b day in style and feel confident in my own skin.

    1. Jo, 40 is such a fantastic age! I can understand why you struggle with it, but if you look at what you’ve accomplished and gained in 40 years, it’s really a blessing. That said, you can definitely be a quirky, funky T4. I know several, and they have their own awesome style. Undercuts, mohawks, fauxhawks, vibrantly colored hair, bold, wild prints, and they look GLORIOUS. As a T4 I tend to get stuck on rules and doing things right, but for every type four I know, there is a unique interpretation of what that is. Embrace your funky awesomeness and channel it into this. I think you will love it! I hope you’ll let me know how the challenge goes and that the download is useful. Thanks for your comment.

  12. Love this! I’m 4/1 and can very much relate to being too much. I love my style and even though I’m 47, i wear what ever i want and love it. I found myself going crazy at the mall Sunday after church because all the silver and sparkly new years clothes are out and i wanted it all! Great post. Very validating. Thanks for sharing your journey!

    1. Lea I’m so glad you have found your path and feel free to wear what you want. I love shiny stuff myself. It’s hard to turn away sometimes! Thanks for sharing your experience.

  13. Love this article! It felt like you were writing about me. I’m a type 4 with strong type 3 secondary, and reading this couldn’t have come at a more perfect moment. Thank you so much! I’m a younger looking 61 and having a lot of trouble figuring out the most flattering hair color for me at this age. I’ve been naturally very dark brown as a young woman, but that’s too harsh for me now. However, the warmer, lighter brown I go, the more type 3 I feel. Thanks again!

    1. Kathryn I’m so glad you found this post when you needed it! I bet you do look younger no than before. Finding what flatters us makes all the difference. Have you tried going lighter and ashier, instead of warmer. My hair has so much red in it my stylist has to put a lot of effort into keeping the color ashy instead of golden, but it makes my skin look so much better. Welcome to the tribe. I hope to see you around here!

  14. You look fabulous. I just discovered DYT last week and took the free on-line course. My struggle is this. I feel like I am a type 4 in mindset and aesthetics. However, I am drawn to many of the colors of type 3 but not the overemphasis on pattern and chunky jewelry. I love to mix metals and that was not addressed in the free online course. They make everything cut and dried.

    I feel like my skin is too warm for the type 4 makeup. I am considering giving it a try though.

    I love your description of adding edginess to type 4 clothing. I would appreciate any suggestions anyone can offer.

    1. Laura thank you! It can really be a struggle to figure out your type. Welcome to the rabbit hole 🙂 My advice is to do a strict 30-day challenge and see how you feel. Once I did that, I couldn’t stand to wear anything else. It was very clear to me. Also, look at a picture of yourself and really look at your features. It helps me to look from a distance or squint and see shapes. If you have videos of yourself, how do you sit, stand, move? I don’t move hardly at all, which you can see in the videos I posted this week. It’s like watching a mannequin. These are all thing Carol recommends doing, and it’s true. She provides TONS of free content to help you type yourself. Enjoy the journey. It’s so healing. Let me know what you figure out!

  15. I found this post after searching "dyt type 4 colors wrong for me."

    I have gone back and forth between a 3 and 4 since learning of DYT about two years ago. As you write, I have a strong duality of the two and have gone back and forth over the years, since childhood really.

    Seeing your before and after is pretty fascinating. I would be color typed as a "warm," which is why (I think) I settled on a 3. Judging by your before pics, you’d have been color typed as a warm, too… yet there you are in "cool" colors, looking lovely.

    You’ve given me much to think about in this post. I printed it in its entirety and took a highlighter to the text… the page is yellow!

    Thank you for this post.

    Jennifer

    1. Jennifer my complexion changes a lot depending on what colors I’m wearing. When I wear T4 colors, my skin is clear and bright. When I wear T3 colors it’s ruddy and textured. It’s a real challenge. I knew I was a T4 immediately, but I had some people trying to convince me I was T3, so I did the 30-day challenge in strict T4 to see how I looked and felt, and there was no going back. I have major, major T3 envy, but I could never, ever wear that after the 30 days. Printing this post and taking a highlighter? That cracked me up. Sounds like something I would do. I actually got out a level and a ruler to measure my face!

  16. I have just discovered your blog and am in awe at this post. Point’s 6 and 7 describe me perfectly, it’s almost like they were written about me. I will be suscribing to your site and reading more, so thanks for the style tips and outfit inspiration.

    1. Katie welcome! I’m so glad to have you here. Points 6 and 7 are so confusing if you don’t know why. It can feel like you are two people trapped in one body, fighting for control. Now we know how to work together. I hope you find inspiration as you continue your Type 4 journey. It’s amazing!

  17. April, this article is so great and I cannot believe your before pictures are you. You look great but you went to stunning and I am so happy for you that you found the clarity and affirmation you were seeking for so long. Finding your site on Facebook has been a true blessing for me. I have been living as a T1 for several years and suspected my second is a T4. I have always felt something was off and thought it was I hadn’t found my secondary type. After spending the time with your site and spring style guide, I know I am a T4/T1 and feel so liberated. I am now ready to tackle my closet and create my own deliberate style and jump off the fashion hamster wheel ???? thank you ❣️

  18. First, you look amazing! What a difference dressing your truth has made for you.
    And, reading your post completely threw me. It’s me to a T.
    I have either mixed up my primary and secondary or I’m a T1 who is leaning too much on S4.
    I keep thinking I can’t be T4 because I’m not stunning or beautiful. But pretty much ALL of the T4 characteristics describe me. Yes, I’m cute. Yes, I’m random. But I do not lead with fun and light. I’m quite serious most of the time. And focused.
    So, all of this to say, you have me thinking and considering. I don’t know how I’m going to ultimately figure it out, but I’m looking for answers.
    Thank you for your detailed, vulnerable post.

    1. Vicki thank you! I can honestly tell you the word stunning really caused me a lot of trouble as well. I never thought of myself as stunning. I didn’t think I was pretty enough to be stunning.

      If you are suddenly questioning your T1, my best suggestion would be to try a T4 30-day challenge and see how you feel. Don’t be discouraged by the word stunning. Maybe your inner stunning is ready to come out! Let me know how it turns out.

  19. Without sounding out there can I please just say I FREAKING LOVE YOU! You are such a rock star! I have secretly been a dying inside Type 4.. For YEARS I have struggled with what I call "not feeling comfortable in my own skin". It wasn’t until I finally slowed down enough last week to begin DYT that I realized…I’m a Type 4. It was until I read this blog post that I understood why I have felt uncomfortable in my own skin for a long time. Two things you pointed out that resonated with me…

    1. "I used to be a very vibrant, bright, engaging person, very much like one of our daughters, and I’ve wondered what happened to me" – YES! I’ve thought this about myself a million x’s a million!!

    2. "I’ve been waiting my whole life to be seen, appreciated, acknowledged, understood and admired for my strengths instead of condemned for my weaknesses" And all my Type 4 DYT ladies said AMEN!

    THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU! You rock Type 4/3. You have made me excited to begin exploring what works best for me as a Type 4/3 too!

    1. Stacey I’m so glad you related to this and found some personal insights. It’s quite a journey, and a few years later I can say I feel unapologetically content in who I am. I embrace myself and no longer shame myself for not meeting up to some societal standard that is not true to who I am. Good luck on your journey. I would love to hear how it goes for you.

  20. I have really enjoyed reading about your journey as a Type 4. I went through the DYT program a few years ago, but could never quite get comfortable with the whole deal. I recognized myself as a Type 4, but also felt very much like a Type 2. My more relaxed nature and desire for comfort made the Type 4 style seem to restrictive. I do love all things classic, but also love things like my gold jewelry and wearing the brown leathers and some of the traditional "fall colors". All of that keeps me in a constant state of not knowing how to put it all together. After investing in all of the different types for awhile, I gave it up completely, but after reading your blog, it all comes back into question for me. I am still not satisfied with my overall style. I am in my fifties, and feel ridiculous that I cannot have a consistent style, at this point in my life. After raising 5 kids and having a career as a teacher, I now work from home in our real estate business and watch my two toddler grandchildren and will soon be watching my new infant grandson, as well. Comfort is key for me, but style is important, too. I don’t want to look frumpy!! Also struggle with getting the hair color right. I’ve fought letting the gray show for about 10 years now, but the stylists just seem to make it look light and more brassy with their highlights…don’t quite know what to do on that, either…Thanks for listening to my ramblings, but I am enjoying looking at your blog. I wonder, since you say you dress in a more edgy, Type 4 way, do your seasonal Capsule Wardrobes reflect that, or are they more adaptable to just a more classic style, or one that may have a softer nature? I look forward to hearing from you!

    1. Sheri, thanks for reading my blog! I’m happy to have you here. I can relate to the feeling of almost getting your style right but feeling something was missing. I felt that way until I got my edgy details right. I love that you want to get your style nailed, and that you get the importance of feeling put together everyday, no matter what your schedule is like. You can definitely look stylish and be comfortable and kid friendly. I have 6 kids, and they are ages 5-11, and I’ve always gotten dressed, even with infant triplets.

      The wardrobe guides are straight classic. In the shopping links I provide options to lean more cute, soft, or edgy so you can get the details just right for you. You might want to check out my classic closet style series to help you figure out what details feel right to you. I published classic and soft today. https://stunningstyle.com/blog/2018/6/24/soft-and-classic

      As for the hair, you may be happier with no highlights, or make sure they use an ashy color. My stylist uses a level 5A (which is ash, so we fight my natural red undertones). If that is too dark a level 6A is a nice medium brown.

      I also have friends who have embraced the gray in their hair. My mom always says her salt and pepper phase was her favorite. That’s another option to consider. I was looking forward to the same, but I don’t have the same hair she has, so I didn’t inherit that beautiful mix.

  21. Wow! I just purchased Carol Tuttle’s book and have been persusing dyt sites on pinterest. I stumbled on your blog and feel like I am reading my story. I realize I used to dress my truth back in The 80s with a short bob and lots of black and white contrast. But my mom hated all my black (she’s a type 2) and she signed me up for a Color Me Beautiful session which said I was a summer and should wear soft colors and never black. The 90s-2000s was me trying to be a more gentle Christian school teacher and mousey mom. Then I had 4 huge life altering events that left me completely unsupported (after all i did changing myself to make others happy). I found Carol’s program 3 years ago and tried living as a type 3, but that fizzled out as I became more and more fatigued and withdrawn. Now after almost completely withdrawing from everyone besides immediate family and seriously contemplating a move to the deep woods…..I got an invitation to take a quiz on facebook. I’m a type 4, for sure. I am critical, I need a plan to move forward, but sometimes get bogged down in the planning stage. I recently discovered, quite by accident, that I look amazing in neon yellow. I love your style, both the classic dramatic elements mixed with the edgy feel. Thank you for sharing your story. I look forward to my spiritual and physical transformation into the Bold and Stunning woman I was created to be.

    1. Laura thank you! And welcome! I’m so glad to have you here. It’s amazing how we can let someone else derail us and convince us we need to be someone else. I’m so glad you found your way back to yourself. Best of luck on your journey!

  22. I just discovered your blog tonight as I was trying to find some inspiration pictures for my Stitch Fix stylist (a new, lovely person who is sending me Type 2 outfit pieces…). I have been Dressing My Truth for quite a long time, but I have always known that I was a Type 4, before I had the label. It is so delightful to read your blog; I feel like I am having an out of body experience – your frank discussion of "disappearing" resonated with me so deeply. It was only when I discovered DYT that I, too, realized that there is nothing wrong with me. I felt I was reading my story tonight (except for the six children…God bless you!!). I will be back for more…thanks so much!

  23. I’m trying to find my type for 3 years now. Reading, watching, searching. I don’t look like a four. I feel like a two (now) was bold en loud younger dressing as a 4. I look more like a 1 or 3. Confusing all over. And then I read your post….. this is how I feel. How I dressed down. Acted the 3 and now and then still do. But was off in the style and heavy juwelery. And it draines me if I keep it up. So I started feeling the need to be a 2. But I might be just this. This could be the reason for my struggle… The hair chopping, the push, the style, the 3. This might be it……

    1. Ramona I know it can be a frustrating journey, but it sounds like you are really studying to figure it out. I recommend a 30-day challenge and see how you feel when you try something different after.

  24. Loved this post. I finally woke up after almost 20 years of buying whatever I saw in the store to realize that I hated everything in my closet and how I looked. It has gotten very hard to dress in a way that made me feel good and I even work from home! I went on a journey with the help of the internet. I did a number of "style" mini-courses but all they said was look at pintrest and get inspired. Didn’t work. Then I found DYT but didn’t understand my secondary well enough and dressing 100% my primary was too much. All T1 felt childish and frankly cheap. Also, my clothes fit so badly (low rise skinny jeans and long tops terrible for this pear shape.) I did Adore Your Wardrobe which corrected so many issues on fit and taught me how to love my body shape. I came back to DYT to help with my style. I am pretty sure I am a type 1/4. I have listened too much to bloggers, stores, and finally feel I am getting in touch with ME. Your post so resonated with me and I am thankful you shared all that you did. I finally am allowing myself to wear the lighter colors and more fun prints of a t1 but also enjoy structure and classic clean lines of a t4. This balance feels right and I am continuing to explore, experiment, and allow myself the grace to make changes where I see fit without the judgement from myself or listening to others. Thanks for all you do!

  25. Thank you so much for posting this. Although I believe I’m a type 3/4, I’d been dressing as a type 1 for years because a ‘professional color analyst’ told me what I was, which resulted in me looking clownish. Then I married and disappeared for 25 years blending into the woodwork. I came across DYT recently and am starting to wake up, but it’s certainly a learning curve since I haven’t paid attention to fashion in eons. And, back then I often dressed in what looked good on other people; it wasn’t the best on me.

    1. Stunning Style

      Debby, you’re welcome! It’s frustrating to dress in a way that doesn’t suit you, especially when an "expert" told you it was right, and you trusted them! Welcome back to you!

      If you want help getting into your groove, I will be publishing the Rich Warm Shades Spring Wardrobe Guide soon! Keep an eye on the blog for the announcement! You can also sign up for the 10-day free trial to see what it’s like here: https://stunningstyle.com/10-day-wardrobe-guide-free-trial

  26. I think I’m a 4/3, after a long time thinking I was a 4/2 but Carol Tuttle recently posted her yin-yang videos for type 4 , and I identified more with the 4/1 lady. Which confused me, but my 13 yo daughter is a definite 4/1. She can wear cutesy things like polka dots and other random shapes.
    There is one particular navy top with small white anchors all over it that I bought- but it makes me look deranged. But my daughter looks so cute and grown up in it so I gave it to her.
    So maybe I am a 4/3 after all! I’ve started looking at jacket-style cardigans as I feel better in cardigans than leather jackets.

      1. Hi Catherine – we removed your email from your previous post. Please let us know if that is sufficient. Thanks!

  27. I’ve known about dyt for over 5 years now and have given it up several times because after watching all of the content I could find, I still couldn’t figure out where I fit. At one point, I started a 30 day challenge with some ladies on FB and quickly was told that I was not t4. It makes me feel angry anyway, and I look terrible in black. T2 is also not me and makes me tired to dress that way. I also don’t like planning! So I did a 30 day Challenge for t1 and liked that better. But it still didn’t feel exactly like me. Maybe just a little too positive and most of the colors felt too silly to me. It felt like an effort. After giving up on dyt for a few years, I recently realized that all of my favorite clothes and shoes lean t3, the one type I ruled out as definitely not me. But maybe it is. I was not a typical t3 child (which was big part of my reasoning), but I was raised by T2 and T4 parents. When I look at my adult life I see so much t3 and so much of my anxiety comes from worrying that I’m too outspoken and will say things the wrong way and people will be offended. I’m probably a 3/2 because I react swiftly first and then sometimes the tears come because I was too impulsive and regret not being that soft, kind person I wish I was. But I have been told that I’m warm and personable and thoughtful. I love to help people in hands-on, practical ways. Thank you for sharing your journey. There are many things I identify with from t4 and I can relate to your process in getting there.

    1. Sorry about that! When we moved from one platform to another, it suddenly revealed your email address. It shouldn’t happen again. Thanks for your patience during this big transition!

      1. Ah I see! Love your blog btw! I think I am really a 4/3. I don’t like all the jackets that 4/3 ladies wear on the DYT site, BUT I recently discovered vintage cardigans, especially 1980s ones. Chunky, structured, bold. I recently bought 3 of those and with a change of buttons, rejuvenated them!

        1. We all have our likes and dislikes. My mom and sister would die of hypothermia before would wear a coat. They hate them that much. It sounds like you’ve found the perfect alternative! You can also look for jackets made from a ponte knit. It’s still structured but stretchy and comfortable.

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